Another disadvantage is when the boy’s family turns down a girl just because she might be average in appearance, even though she is decent, respects her elders and knows how to stand along with her future partner in sorts of situations that he or his family might face. Couples must remember that they have chosen their partners by their will and they don’t need to get carried away by the ill thoughts of the other family members as they have a future to look forward to. Therefore in some cases it ends up breaking the relationship between two individuals.
This take a huge toll on the couple as they get caught up in the family and in-law dispute. Even though we discussed in the advantages that the in-laws support the couples during their wedded life, sometimes feelings of ego and jealousy drive the other memebers of the family to sour up the relationship between the couple. Hence the main feeling of love between the couple ends up being the “second thing” in the relationship. Once a couple chosen through arranged system of marriage get married, family future, financial planning and other relative tasks take the first priority. It calls for an awkward situation if the couple is in an argument, and hence the entire family/ families might get involved even if they don’t tend to. The couple might experience lack of privacy in their relationship due to the family closeness and interference by other relatives. This sometimes leads the individual to rethink about arranged marriages. This occurs when there is a lot of pressure on the unwed individual from the family members.
Arranged marriages may sometimes raise a hard situation of choosing the right partner. 
to the groom’s family, just because they are on the superior side of the relationship. The dowry system basically is a situation where the girls family pays enormous amounts on money or gives other expensive things such as gold, cars etc. It has been said that the dowry system has been completely eradicated from the social views around the country, but it doesn’t seem like it.
The main disadvantage of Arranged marriages in Hinduism (especially in India) is the dowry system. When the in-laws interfere and impose their views, this can cause stress to the marriage.” (Professor’s House, n.d., pars. Thus, elderly interference, though may not cause divorce or break-up of a relationship, maybe the source of sufferings.Įspecially, in eastern culture, women are the worst-sufferer of elderly interference, as it is reported in an article, “Some marital arguments and conflicts are settled better when only the spouses are involved. But the elders’ support, in an arranged marriage, sometimes may turn into interference. Since the elders of the families are directly involved in the matchmaking process, the rate of quarrel, divorce, and discordance between husband and wife is lower than love-marriage. In arranged-marriage, family-values are emphasized while choosing the spouse. 34-38) Indeed both arranged marriage and love marriage have advantages and disadvantages. This western norm of allowing people to choose their spouse is based on the assumption that the true basis of the husband-wife relationship is ‘love’, mutual understanding and cooperation between the two. Rather these societies such the western peoples allow the wiling male or females to choose their spouse. On the other hand, there are societies which do not care much about the matchmaking system. This system of matchmaking allows the parties to know each other well. In this system, a man (often a woman), called ‘matchmaker’, is supposed to negotiate between the two parties of a marriage. But the question that arises here is: how should the willing parties of marriage consent? There are many cultures and societies, all over the world, which allow the system of matchmaking. Confucius (n.d.) gives such a psychological perception of marriage: “Marriage is the union of two different surnames, in friendship and in love….to furnish those who shall preside at the sacrifices to heaven and earth” (Su, 1922, p.54).
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